Veterans and Fireworks - Dealing with it.
We’re coming up on firework season again this year. Whether or not we are going to be allowed to shoot them off this year though will largely depend on the weather and our lack of rain - at least here in Washington State. As a veteran, I love taking my family out to watch and light off fireworks on the 4th because nothing says freedom and fun like colorfully exploding gunpowder. Am I right? Unfortunately, for some of our combat veterans and anyone that may have suffered through similar circumstances, this can be a really tough time. For most folks, these unexpected explosions and noise are nothing more than a minor nuisance - and really that’s all it is. Except that it isn’t – for a lot of us.
Now I know some of you right now are rolling your eyes and thinking, “Oh jeez, here we go. It’s another veteran crying about fireworks. Just suck it up and move on already.”
Please just hear me out. It’s not necessarily the fireworks on the 4th of July that’s bothersome for most, but the unexpected noise and explosions you hear going off on the days and weeks leading up to it, and in the days following.
For someone who spent time in a combat zone, these sounds are eerily familiar and can put our anxiety through the roof. We can spend the majority of the year symptom-free, but when these things start exploding randomly and unexpectedly, it can triggers anxiety attacks in the worst way. For me, the concussive mortar shells that folks get from the Reservation are the worst.
During my first combat tour (I’ve done 3), we had incoming mortar shells fall on us daily – often multiple times a day. And this hell lasted through the duration of a year-long deployment. Ever since then, every loud and abrupt sound triggers my anxiety, even when I know I’m safe. When most people hear fireworks randomly they turn towards them, but not me. My first instinct is to close my eyes, turn away from the sound and get as low as possible. It’s embarrassing - especially when my reaction is inappropriate. People would laugh because they don't know why you are reacting the way you are. My kids even used to laugh at me because they didn't understand either. That was really embarrassing.
Some might say that we should get used to this and that we’ve been away from that stuff for years. I’m sorry, but this kind of thing is something, even years later, that you just don’t get used to. You don’t unlearn how to react to a horrible situation. You may learn to handle it better, but it never quite goes away.
You may say that we are all a product of our experiences and that because we (except draftees) made the choice to join the military that we must suffer the consequence. You are absolutely right and I agree, but remember these veterans – regardless of the politics involved or how they enlisted - offered themselves up for our country to do what others wouldn’t, and said they were willing to die if it meant protecting our way of life. That is one of the most honorable things someone can do.
The bottom line is, I love the Fourth of July and fireworks just as much as the next guy and I’ll be out there setting them off with my kids too, but remember that Korean War vet next door may not enjoy them as much. They won’t ask you to stop shooting them off and neither will I because we all understand that we use these fireworks as a symbol of our freedoms. We’ll be damned if anyone takes that away.
As a personal favor, I only ask that as we get closer to Independence Day that you give your veteran neighbors a courtesy and let them know what you are doing before-hand. If possible, try to limit them to the 4th of July so that we may all be able to enjoy this day.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.